Well, I guess I'll see how this goes. First, a prayer to Ganesha. (everyone, join in!).
Next, my first piece of wisdom: the femme toolkit. This is something I came up with several years ago, and as always, my femme friends had wisdom to add to make it better. Why a femme toolkit? Well, if you know you know. I'm so exhausted by the invented stories and narratives that spin in my head. (and I know my femmes know this)
And if you don't know...well, this toolkit just isn't for you. Here's the other thing about toolkits: I don't always remember I have this set of tools, and I often forget how to use them. But like anything else, the more practice the more perfect--and I would add (for myself) that faith is the underlying tool that drives everything else. If I can remember that God is with me, I'm more likely to access all the tools I need to thrive. It's all just so easy to forget (sigh).
So anyway, here are some tools to make life a smoother ride:
1. Superiority complex. You are *enough*. And most of the time, you are just better.
2. Fake it till you make it.
3. Kill them with kindness.
4. Always look hot. Even when you don't feel like it. (This one is a hard one for me but red polish and lip gloss are insta-hot! I try to keep these in stock at all times. Other things that are insta-hot: accessories--bracelets, earrings, anklets)
5. Only give as much as you get. (Also a hard one for me)
6. Think of a centering statement you can recall in times of chaos. (I am enough. I am loved. I deserve happiness, I know how to be happy.)
7. Don't be afraid to be femme-tastic. Just don't be afraid to be yourself.
8. Always trust yourself. (The saner you are the madder they try to make you feel. Trust your own truth.)
What do you have to add, femme-tastics?
Next, my first piece of wisdom: the femme toolkit. This is something I came up with several years ago, and as always, my femme friends had wisdom to add to make it better. Why a femme toolkit? Well, if you know you know. I'm so exhausted by the invented stories and narratives that spin in my head. (and I know my femmes know this)
And if you don't know...well, this toolkit just isn't for you. Here's the other thing about toolkits: I don't always remember I have this set of tools, and I often forget how to use them. But like anything else, the more practice the more perfect--and I would add (for myself) that faith is the underlying tool that drives everything else. If I can remember that God is with me, I'm more likely to access all the tools I need to thrive. It's all just so easy to forget (sigh).
So anyway, here are some tools to make life a smoother ride:
1. Superiority complex. You are *enough*. And most of the time, you are just better.
2. Fake it till you make it.
3. Kill them with kindness.
4. Always look hot. Even when you don't feel like it. (This one is a hard one for me but red polish and lip gloss are insta-hot! I try to keep these in stock at all times. Other things that are insta-hot: accessories--bracelets, earrings, anklets)
5. Only give as much as you get. (Also a hard one for me)
6. Think of a centering statement you can recall in times of chaos. (I am enough. I am loved. I deserve happiness, I know how to be happy.)
7. Don't be afraid to be femme-tastic. Just don't be afraid to be yourself.
8. Always trust yourself. (The saner you are the madder they try to make you feel. Trust your own truth.)
What do you have to add, femme-tastics?
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